Al-Anon Family Groups

I would not recommend this group to anyone. Not every situation can fit nicely into their written or verbal scenarios. It is basically teaching passive aggressive behaviors toward the substance abuser. There also seems to be a propensity to gossip, without calling out a persons name. I gave it 6+ months, more than a fair shot and all I can say is "stay away". I believe it started out well and has evolved into something very different than intended. I do notice most new comers might come back once, maybe twice but that's it. Took me too long to come to the best conclusion.

Regardless of what others have said, I would highly recommend Al-anon.
No, their members are not perfect, but neither are you.
I was raised in a church setting, but still had a Father that was a closet drinker. This along w/ a very strict religious system had quite a negative impact on my life. Al-anon helped me to learn to "think for myself" without anyone judging me for doing so. It has been great therapy for me... and it doesn't cost a thing except your time.

Not for me but seems to offer solace for some so worth trying. I personally came away feeling more hopeless and less positive and sadly found one of the group members manner to be quite abrupt (even though they were supposedly a volunteer on the helpline). The rest of the group members were absolutely lovely though and made me see just how resilient people can be. I'm glad I went along but I personally think 1 - 1 support would be more beneficial.

I would not recommend this group, in my experience, staying away from substance abusers and very often their children is the way to go. I just got back from my first meeting and was humiliated in front of the group. I drove off with member chasing trying to make amends. Too late. The damage was already done.

If these people had been raised right, which they are not, they would no the proper way to act. They are, therefore, not the people I need to go to for help. I would never go back. I was suspect when it was recommended to try six meetings before I make up my mind to become a member. Clearly, I am not as sick as they are, despite my background. Al-Anon is a cult that depends on controlling just as the abusers have done. I don't need it and you most likely don't need it either.

I tried really hard to go but it WAS religious (despite website suggesting otherwise), you follow the 12 steps of AA despite not being the alcoholic, you have to buy the books, and a lot of it was about the blame on you, but I was literally a child. My therapist said this was incredibly damaging to children of alcoholics.

No one has even updated the national database, so that we who are needy spend out time, money, gas, and energy to show up at meetings that don't actually exist...? Really?