Wanting to meet someone to love and to share life with in that exciting and romantic way is something everyone deserves to experience. I figured out that I was gay when I first started college. I was scared that I would never be able to find the man that I was meant to be with. Yes, there are apps and dating sites, many that have a lot more sophistication than the sites that first came online when I came out in 1995. Back then, and more so now (that everyone has phones that have apps), the algorithm of the computer does not best help connect the hearts of two people. Generally, it is not leading to love. I tried the dating sites and found more heartbreak then the dream. Then I thought, there has to be something better, and I began to find all of these dating services that would help with the right match, but who did not have a focus on, and in some cases would not help, gay men, and cost thousands of dollars. I wished that there was something for me, specific to gay guys and affordable.
Four years ago, I discovered Gayquation, and it was exactly the type of guidance that I needed. Not only did they help me find an awesome guy, but, given that I worked in the public spotlight, I was out, but not put your picture on a dating site out. Thats where the service really helped. I found people to date that I could start a conversation with immediately, not about the superficial but to matters of the heart. The coaching services helped me out greatly as I had not had a long-term relationship before. I learned the key was pacing the enthusiasm that comes when first meeting a person so that you aim for success over the long haul and not cause burnout. My coach Nick helped me through the challenges of a long-distance relationship. He taught me about accountability in a relationship. He taught me about what all gay men should have the opportunity to learn when they were teenagers, to learn to express the love that comes naturally from within and be able to use that to build into a relationship. There is a saying that many gay men who grew up prior to the Obama administration, before gay marriage was accepted by the majority of America, are reaching back to our time as a teenager and trying to grasp at the time lost to where we could have learned how to love, date, and dream about being married to the most wonderful man, a man you had not yet met. The time of exploring who you are attracted to, dating and the fumbles often associate with a time earlier in life happens to many gay men at a later time than others. Like many who have seen it, I was so moved by the CGI animated short film, In a Heartbeat. (If you havent seen it take a look, https://youtu.be/2REkk9SCRn0) For many it shows what should be, I have viewed it as what I wish I could have figured out before I was in college.
This is where the Gayquation team helps. You cant go back in time to and relive those years when you could explore what being in a gay relationship is all about. Gayquation helps bridge that gap, saves time and emotion by being your teammate in finding your partner. They are also your big brother, there to help you navigate the world as you aspire to find the most valuable resource, love. Their services made a difference in my life, thanks to them I met the man of my dreams.